A gentle booklist
Children's books about family violence
Picture books for young children whose family has been through family violence (also called domestic violence), or who no longer see a parent. Here are a few that are well regarded, with what each one is like.
How to choose a book
- Read it first, on your own. Some books name family violence plainly. Others use animals or a storm to tell the story gently. You know your child best.
- Match the book to your child's age and situation. A book for a child who still lives with a worrying adult is different from one for a child who is now safe.
- Look for a hopeful ending and a clear message that the child is not to blame.
- Check who it is for. Some of these books are written for counsellors and teachers to use alongside a child, not for bedtime.
Reading it together
Choose a calm time. Sit close. Let your child lead, and stop whenever they want to. It's fine to read the same book many times. You can say, “How do you think they feel?” and then just listen. For more ideas, see how to explain to your child why Dad isn't here. If you need someone to talk to, free support lines are listed here.
The books
Ages are the publisher's suggestion where they give one. Links go to the publisher or a bookshop.
Where's My Daddy? by Zoe Jones, illustrated by Jacinta Kay
About 3 to 8 Zoe: confirm age range
For children whose mum has left an abusive relationship and who no longer see their dad. It says that it isn't their fault, that they are loved, and that they are safe. A bonus poem for parents is at the end. Australian author and illustrator, published 2020.
Raindrops and Dreams by Katrina Tsaftaropoulos and Marina Wilkinson
Free from Legal Aid NSW (no age range given)
A rhyming story about Bubbles, a young crocodile, and his family, and the people who help them. It is written to help parents and workers talk with children about family violence, and to show that things can get better. Legal Aid NSW suggests parents read it before sharing it, because it names family violence in clear words. You can read it online or order a print copy.
Luna Little Legs by Catherine Lawler and Norma Howes, illustrated by Nicky Armstrong
Very young children (no exact ages given)
Luna overhears something at home and wonders if it is her fault. The rhyming story has three different endings, so an adult can pick the one that fits the child's own life. The publisher says it is meant to be used with a guide for adults.
Floss and the Boss by Catherine Lawler and Abigail Sterne, illustrated by Nicky Armstrong
Primary-school age
Floss is a happy puppy whose life changes when her mum's new friend, Boss, comes into their home. It helps children understand their feelings, ask for help and stay safe. It is often used by counsellors and teachers, and the publisher suggests using it with a guide for adults.
The Big Bad Wolf in My House by Valérie Fontaine, illustrated by Nathalie Dion
Ages 4 to 8
A young girl compares her mum's new partner to the big bad wolf. The story is honest about the fear in the home, so it suits children who are already safe and ready to talk. It ends on a hopeful note. Read it first on your own.
At the End of Holyrood Lane by Dimity Powell, illustrated by Nicky Johnston
Early primary (no exact ages given)
An Australian picture book about Flick, who loves chasing butterflies, and the storms that shake her home. The storm stands in for family violence, so the story can be gentle. It ends with Flick reaching out for help.
Hands Are Not for Hitting by Martine Agassi
Ages 4 to 7
A simple, friendly book about big feelings. It teaches children to pause, name how they feel, and use their hands for kind things instead of hitting. It isn't about family violence directly, which makes it an easy one to start with.
Two Homes by Claire Masurel, illustrated by Kady MacDonald Denton
Ages 3 to 7
A warm, reassuring story about a boy who is loved in two homes after his parents separate. It is about separation, not family violence, so it suits children who still see both parents.
We earn nothing from these links. This list is general information, not professional advice. A counsellor, teacher or children's librarian can help you choose.